Heres my depiction of a healthy relationship. He might have issues, but he becomes increasingly aware of them and fixes them. She might have issues, but she becomes increasingly aware of them and fixes them. He doesnt blame her for his issues, and he doesnt expect her to fix things when he makes a mess. She doesnt blame him for her issues, and she doesnt expect him to fix things when she makes a mess. Partners handle their own fulfillment.

He has a centered life and takes care of his fulfillment. She has a centered life and takes care of her fulfillment. He loves her. Almost unconditionally. She loves him. Almost unconditionally. Hes masculine. Shes feminine. He knows his strengths and weakness. He uses his strength to compensate for her weakness, and asks for help when hes weak. She knows her strengths and weakness. She uses her strength to compensate for his weakness. Healthy boundaries guide them.

She asks for help when shes weak. He doesnt abuse the terms of the relationship. She doesnt abuse the terms of the relationship. His boundaries are healthy. Her boundaries are healthy. They share together more than they live on their own. Their time together is mostly happy. He supports her mission in life and is an indispensable part of it. She supports his mission in life and is an indispensable part of it. Shared joy endures hardships.

When everything else fails and life stinks, he has her. It brightens the world. When everything else fails and life stinks, she has him. It brightens the world. In poverty. In richness. In the bad. In the good. He doesnt doubt her. She doesnt doubt him. He doesnt lie to her, ever. She doesnt lie to him, ever. He can get loose around her in total trust. She relaxes with him fully. Each jumps into fire to save the other.